Given two individuals: Al Dente and Summer Greene. Al and Summer have been friends since university and live about a five minute walk from each other. They both have full time jobs that allow them to live a relatively comfortable life, able to pay for basic necessities such as rent, groceries, transport, and an occasional night on the town.
Needing a Holiday
Al and Summer have both been thinking about vacation. Al wants to spend two weeks in Japan, while Summer would rather spend those two weeks in Iceland. Although they can’t seem to agree where to go for a holiday, they do agree that it would be a lot more fun if they got to go together. So they decided it would be best to start saving up for the holiday regardless of where they are going, and they would decide on a location later.
Control Urges
But if they are going to start saving, they are going to need a little help to control themselves. Summer knows that Al Dente’s weakness is food, if he could he would probably go out to eat every night. Al on the other hand knows that Summer’s weakness is clothes. Summer would have no problem spending a whole weeks’ worth of money on a full day of shopping for shoes, tops and little dresses.
Because of both of their weaknesses, they decided they would have to persuade each other into not spending as much as they usually do. Summer would have to persuade Al to pack his lunches and limit himself from eating out every night. Al would need to go shopping with Summer so she does not buy the whole store on impulse.
This little story does have its purpose. It is to show that it is ok to ask others for help in limiting yourself to spending so much money. Think of it as going to the gym. you are so much more likely to succeed in achieving your desired body if you have someone to work out with. The same goes with your finances as well. It is always good to have that support with you along the way to your goals (holiday in this example).
Propel Persuade Prevail
Know your weakness and ask your friend, spouse, or whoever to always give you that extra motivation. And it is always good to find that someone who will exercise good spending habits with you.
Al did not want to go to Summer’s Iceland and Summer did not want to go to Al’s Japan, so they decided to compromise. After about three months of packing lunches, making dinner at home, and avoiding those extra pair of boots, Al and Summer decided to spend their holiday in Italy where Summer will indulge in great food and Al will enjoy the lovely weather.
So go out there and find yourself an Al or a Summer who will push you towards funding for your goals. This is not to say to avoid splurging friends (I have friends who are not afraid of blowing all their money on alcohol), but maybe you can come with a little compromise as a start.
Do you surround yourself with people who are more likely to splurge on food, clothes and entertainment, or does your circle of friends consist of people who live a more frugal lifestyle?






















By Wahid Hussaini
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